365 day challenge - day 142 / Bushido - Day 4

Bushido - Day 4

(4) Respect - 禮

Definition / Formal Thoughts

From Wikipedia:  Respect is a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem. Respect can be a specific feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected (e.g., "I have great respect for her judgment"). It can also be conduct in accord with a specific ethic of respect. Rude conduct is usually considered to indicate a lack of respect, disrespect, where as actions that honor somebody or something indicate respect. Specific ethics of respect are of fundamental importance to various cultures. Respect for tradition and legitimate authority is identified by Jonathan Haidt, a professor at the University of New York Sten School of Business, as one of five fundamental moral values shared to a greater or lesser degree by different societies and individuals.

Respect is both given and received. We expect other people to respect us in return for the respect we show them. Respect is also something that is earned by the standards of the particular society in which one lives. Respect cannot be measured as a quantity, cannot be bought or traded, it is one of those things that is earned and built over time, but that can be lost with one stupid or inconsiderate act. One can ask or beg for respect, but only others can bestow us with respect as a result of their perceived treatment by us. Continued caring interactions are then required to maintain or increase that original earned respect. Respect cannot always be seen or observed by actions, but for those who practice chivalry, the outward display of respect is refreshing. Some women view this as patronizing and demeaning, but in its pure form chivalry is about nearly absolute respect.

Personal Thoughts

Nothing sets me off faster than seeing someone I respect, disrespected. When it's directed toward my personally, it doesn't bother me as much because I view it as that persons point of view...but when directed toward someone I care for and respect...this I just will not allow.

As a value, I hold respect as one of the highest - both on a personal level and as a society.  Because if a person is respected and and acts in a way that is deserving of that respect, the people around them and society as a whole (usually) benefit.

For the most part I feel I am deserving of people's respect because of my actions, how I conduct myself in society and what I have accomplished/overcome in my life. I am far from perfect, and there are times in my life and actions I have done that would cause certain people to not have or lose respect for me, but I do strive to conduct myself in a manner that would be deserving of respect.

Regarding respect/chivalry, I can thank my mother for raising me to be thoughtful and chivalrous toward women. Similar to my first comment, nothing sets me off faster than seeing a woman disrespected.

365 day challenge - day 142